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Tiferet: Literature, Art & the Creative Spirit For more than a year, I have enjoyed being a member of Tiferet's community of writers.  Thanks to the encouragement of Tiferet's editors, I've taken risks with my writing—submitting poetry to their site and entering a short story in their annual writing contest. I've also "met" other writers who motivate me. Tiferet...

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Encountering Angels: Reading Genesis with my Children In this book, my children and I blend traditional Jewish learning and personal experience in our commentary on Genesis, making it unlike any other book written about the biblical text and rabbinic literature related to Genesis.  Like most books of biblical commentary written by rabbis, it examines the text through the...

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Pamela Jay Gottfried is an ordained rabbi, teacher, mother, and self-described wordie. An inveterate Scrabble player and New York Times Crossword Puzzle fanatic, she credits her love of words to her third grade teacher and her parents, who encouraged her to develop her vocabulary through reading and using the dictionary...

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It’s Over

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tooth fairy 2I concede that there is something wrong with me. I stare at the screen through a blur of tears as I type this report:

Tooth Fairy has left the building.

Tooth Fairy was already semi-retired, her true identity discovered long ago by my savvy third child.  Perhaps his 18 year old sister planted seeds of suspicion in his mind. She knew from the first time she placed a tooth under her pillow, but played along, gamely writing notes to Tooth Fairy for years. Often Tooth Fairy didn’t make it to our house before morning, and she was forced to leave an apology note and to pay a late fee.

I don’t know why I’m getting all choked up about the fact that my son has just lost his last baby tooth, a tenacious molar that’s been hanging around for months of wiggling.

I am simply unprepared for the sense of loss I feel.

* * * * * * *

He is despondent during dinner, complaining that everything tastes metallic. For dessert, I warm some water in the tea kettle and stir in a heaping teaspoon of salt.

His 15 year old sister cheers him on: “Gargle!”

“Just be sure to swish it all around,” I tell him.

Later, when he is brushing his teeth before bed, I hear a soft plink of tooth enamel on Formica.

“It’s out!” He sounds like he is underwater. Then he spits unceremoniously into the sink and enunciates clearly, “Slip of the toothbrush.”

“I’m so happy for you. It wasn’t even my tooth and I couldn’t wait,” I say, giddy with relief.  The loose tooth stage of childhood presented my greatest challenge as a parent for nearly a decade of my life. I am ready to face a new era of motherhood.

My reverie is interrupted by the opening gambit of an 11 year old litigator:

“I’m not putting this under my pillow,” he announces in a world-weary tone. “Either give me the money up front or forget it. It’s over.”

I can’t help but laugh as I reach for my wallet.  But when he asks me if he should throw the tooth away, I wrap it carefully in a tissue. Then I grab another to wipe my eyes.

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Tiferet: Literature, Art & the Creative Spirit

tiferet logo 2For more than a year, I have enjoyed being a member of Tiferet’s community of writers.  Thanks to the encouragement of Tiferet’s editors, I’ve taken risks with my writing—submitting poetry to their site and entering a short story in their annual writing contest. I’ve also “met” other writers who motivate me. Tiferet Talk, featuring interviews with authors, has been a wellspring of inspiration.

April 14, 2013   I began this week on Sunday at Tiferet, sharing a reflection from my trip to New Orleans. By Monday afternoon, my heart was in Boston. Like many of you, I have been trying to focus on the heroes and helpers, and I’ve been wondering what more I could be doing to improve the world. How can I help people whose needs are great and resources limited? As a member of Tiferet’s community, I continue to seek connection with others who wish to engage in “meaningful dialogue about what it is to be humane and conscious in an often contradictory and confusing world.”

NOLA: Snapshot of a City
Musicians tune their instruments and set buckets at their feet, artists hang their paintings and “cash only” signs on the iron fence surrounding the park and the bells of The Cathedral-Basilica of St. Louis ring the noon hour. Later, I will sit in a quaint cafe on Royal Street—across from antique shops displaying rare books and vintage jewelry—and while I eat an overstuffed sandwich I’ll reflect on my discomfort at the contrast of opulence and poverty in New Orleans. For now, I silence my cell phone and enter the Cathedral’s serene, cool interior. Read more →

 

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Change of Scenery

We can all use a change of scenery once in a while, right? On a recent morning, Jackson Square in New Orleans proved to be more change than I could handle.

It’s sunny and warm. I scout a bench in the shade, per my dermatologist’s instructions, facing St. Louis Cathedral. A city worker washes the circular walkway around the statue of Andrew Jackson on his horse. The growl of the power-washer’s motor, coupled with the ungentle spray of water, creates a background of white noise that allows me to concentrate.  Soon I am lost in my book.

Until I hear a child’s shriek from 1 o’clock. Looking up, I spy a parade of school uniforms winding around the path toward Jackson’s horse. Their teacher quiets the shrieker—and his cadre of giggling classmates—as she returns a baseball cap to his head.  The cool breeze rolling off the Mississippi must have boosted it to freedom.

The gentleman sitting beside me snaps his laptop shut as he is joined by some friends. I cannot help but eavesdrop; this is why I came to the park. They’re heading to Cafe Du Monde for a snack before meeting their guide for a walking tour of the French Quarter.

I am alone, but only for a moment. Two women, about my age and dressed for a business meeting, arrive immediately. Placing their coffee cups beside their stylish shoes, they dig into their paper bags and chat amiably, but I can barely hear their voices under the chugging of the motor.

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Enough people watching, I remind myself. I look back down at my book and try to reposition my left leg, which has fallen asleep. I imagine that the wrought iron has left a cross-hatched pattern on my bottom.

Time passes slowly. I need a deadline, I think. I decide to sit on this uncomfortable bench until the city worker cuts the motor and relocates to the other side of the statue.

The women stand up to leave. They are shaking their legs and stamping their feet like racehorses waiting to be released from the starting gate. “At least I’m not covered  in powdered sugar like last time,” one says to the other.

Dulcet tones of laughter accompany them to the trash can opposite the bench.  I am aware of each sound: the crinkling of balled up paper bags as they open slightly, the clicking of heels on cobblestone as they recede and, in the distance, the quiet humming of a city worker as he tilts a silenced machine onto its back wheels.

I have missed my cue, I think. With lingering disappointment, I snap some photographs of the scenery before making a grand exit.

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